In October my hubby and I went to Maui, where we had married ten years earlier. It was a combo anniversary present and Hay House Worthy retreat.
While we were there we visited (almost ever day!) a little cafe in Paia, called Cafe Des Ami. I fell in love with the quirky papier mache art, by Emily Firmin and Justin Mitchel, that was displayed on their walls. If you visit Maui, this place is a must. The crepes are divine and the Greek salad...wish I could order in!!!
Sometimes it happens that we, who are inclined, see art and it makes a little voice within say, "I want to do that." That is how this art made me feel. But I had no idea, whatsoever, how I would even begin to make something like that. Barry knew how much I loved this piece, so he bought if for me as a surprise when he got up to pay the bill. That lunch was an expensive one. I am so blessed. Thank you Barry!
The penny dropped. I wanted to keep on doing this. I have few designs in mind but wont be able to get to them until after Christmas (bah hum-bug).
I was recently asked by a very lovely friend to do illustrations for her charming book she had written. I read the story, fell in love with it, and said I would give it a try. As you may have heard, I am also working on the editing stages for my book, Lady and the Fox (so freaking excited!). As I am sure you can imagine, I am a busy girl right now. But my desire to get in on this gorgeous book (even though I have tried to make art for people before and it brings up all my old insecurities) got the better of me. What I know about myself is this:I lose touch with my muse when I try to 'push' art out. Forcing never works for me. I just don't feel it. Being creative is a very fickle and individual journey. For me, it is more about being journalistic than it is about my intellect. I also have some 'people-pleasing' 'ism's still standing in my way, that I am presently dealing with.
The beauty is that I have learned to listen to my heart (no matter what my brain is saying). I have learned to tap into my feelings, so I may hear them when they are trying to inform me about what is 'right' for me. This is what happened when I was creating my Sacred Keeper of the Birds piece. I had this intuition that I neeeded to say "no" to this offer. I collaged the body in old papers from a course my husband's Papa took a long time ago (making the piece even more sacred) and wouldn't you know it, the word "no" came up twice. I knew that was my answer, I had to say "no" to this really lovely person. I wasted no time (hers or mine), or any fear in avoiding what I needed to do, and sent her my answer.
In the past saying "no" (especially to someone I like) would have scared me so much. I would have created all sorts of stories around why I didn't want to do it. I might have even pushed through the project, creating not so good energy for the other person, and wasting my own valuable time, by not creating what lights me up. I don't create for the money. I create to heal my life. If money comes as a result, all the better! Saying "no" (an art in itself) has freed me up to have this precious time to let my muse rip. I feel lighter today. Thank you Alma, you gave me a real gift, by giving me practice to say "no" with grace. I wish you all the best!
What are you having trouble saying no to today? What is that you already know you must turn down?
Here are a few tips I have used for practicing the art of saying "no:"
* One listen to your gut - not your ego that wants your name on the cover of someone's art (in order to validate your worth).
* Don't put off the job (it gets harder over time).
*Go directly into your honesty and 'feelings' and stay there (integrity is key).
* Be gentle with yourself, and the person you are saying "no" to.
* Stay out of fear and get into love, wishing the very best for yourself and the other.
* Don't justify or beat around the bush (have respect for the integrity, realizing that one appreciates dishonesty.
* Be direct, but warm (I used to be so afraid of saying "no" that I would actually get angry at the other person!
* Celebrate your ability to say no gracefully (it's an art that will serve you well over your life).
* Bask in feeling lighter after doing the right-for-you thing (the relief is immediate!).
* Get on with the joy of getting to creat your unique and individual passion (there is room for everyone's creative
Hope these tips help you to become a pro at saying no. I know they help me! :)
Peace and Love.