I have been busy setting up a new website by myself (well, not really by myself because there are so many generous souls in the facebook groups I belong to, that have extended time and energy to people like me who need it). Not so long ago, I paid a designer to set up a website for me and truthfully, I never even knew the first thing about navigating my through it once she was done. Already in a week's time I know more about this than I did about that website that I paid loads of money for. I don't really think it is the designer's fault. For me, I need to be involved in the process somewhat to learn how to navigate through it, and then be able to make my way out of it and back into it the next time. I am not sure if this makes sense to anyone else but me? But I liken it to when someone else is driving the car. I will drift off and go to my happy place, daydreaming about this and that. The next time when I am expected to make my way there myself, I have absolutely no idea how to do it, because I wasn't paying attention. So now this thing has my full and undivided attention!
I mention in the title about being kind. The posts on facebook that have been standing out for me lately are about being kind, not judging, not comparing myself to others and extending a hand to someone who needs a boost up. I read a really beautiful lady's post (Liv Lane) about reading a few nasty "mean girl" responses on her page and being struck by fear because of those remarks. I know that my husband Barry and I talk about this often. We marvel over the way the human mind (or heart) works. Someone recently wrote that it is possible to see "dislikes" now as well as "likes" on some sites. A person can have a 1000 " likes" and 100 "dislikes" and what do we focus on? The "dislikes" of course! Even though they represent only a tenth of the people who participated in our commentary! Why is that? My husband tells me, 99% of the people can love the kind of person I am, and I will still wonder why that 1% seems to not like me. I am going to make a conscious effort to put my attention on the 99% from here on!
So back to Liv, who was struck by the fear that these mean girls might be right. Maybe she is not good enough. Maybe she was not worthy. Maybe she is a bit different (This is only my interpretation. You will have to read her blog post yourself to see whether I am at all accurate). Well, anyway, she seemed to get into "fear" because of some hurtful comments, and she talks about her process of working her way back out of that fear. She looked fear in the eye and put it back into perspective. I like the saying that I learned from a very beautiful elderly woman a long time ago, "Fear came knocking at the door. Faith answered. There was no one there." Liv talks in her blog post about applying this philosophy to this fearful situation. When fear told her she did not have the money to buy a coffee, because things were getting tight (fear has a kind of domino effect) instead she focused on her being enough, and all being well and affirmed this in her mind and heart. (I believe our minds are the most powerful tools we have for creating the kind of lives we desire!). When she drove through the drive through, a miracle happened (and they do all the time when I do this kind of thinking!) the fellow in the car ahead of her had paid for her coffee! She was so grateful and told the barista that she often does this random act of kindness for others, but she had never before had it happen to her! Coincidence? I think not.
Another beautiful soul posted about helping others without judging whetheryou think they are worthy of help or not. It is not our job to judge. We are all worthy and it is good for me to remember that giving with an abundant heart attracts that abundance back to me. I think my purpose here on earth is to be joyful. When I am joyful and not suspicious of others, people really rise to the occasion. This makes me wonder which did come first, the chicken or the egg (my thinking or people's demeanor)? For me I know it is my thinking! Happy Thursday! xo